The Practice of Practice

The Practice of Practice

As a recovering perfectionist, I have spent most of my life avoiding trying new things. Basically, the math in my head went something like this:

  • I receive love when I am perfect (when I am perfectly behaved, when I follow the rules, when I get 100% on a test or project, etc)

  • Therefore when I am not perfect, I am not worthy of love

  • Well, that’s terrifying

  • I can’t risk not receiving love

  • Therefore I will only do things that I know I can do perfectly

  • NO NEW THINGS!

Our culture values striving for excellence, which usually turns into striving for perfection – on the surface, this seems really admirable. Why shouldn’t you always try to be perfect at what you do?

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6 Tips for Flying with Newborns and Toddlers

6 Tips for Flying with Newborns and Toddlers

In my oldest daughter’s first year of life, I took her on 17 plane rides. I wanted my family outside of Alberta to spend as much time with our new baby as possible. We went to Ontario twice and to BC six times. At the time it didn’t seem like a big deal, but reflecting back on that first year it occurs to me that it was A LOT of flying! And it gave me the perfect opportunity to hone the process.

Whether you’re facing a quick 45 minute flight or eight (or more) hours, here are my top six tips for flying with your littles.

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10 Tips For Surviving Baby's 1st Christmas

10 Tips For Surviving Baby's 1st Christmas

We think Christmas is the best. Like Will Ferrell in Elf, it's our favorite. We love it, truly. And we know that it can be awful, overwhelming, and full of crazy moments of parenting guilt and shame. So if this is your first Christmas with your little one, here are our 10 best tips for cruising through the holidays:

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Using Busy As An Excuse

Using Busy As An Excuse

This was the tail end of a text conversation I had recently with a dear friend of mine who was (at the time) in her last few weeks of midwifery school. I threw that last comment out without really thinking about it, until I hit send and re-read it.

What she said really did sound like my life. In fact, most of my adult life could be described that way: "Lots of interest and zero time".

That never really bothered me before. But these days, it's kind of getting under my skin...

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Doulaing While Parenting - 4 Ways It Can Work

Doulaing While Parenting - 4 Ways It Can Work

Doulaing full time can be a tricky business at the best of times, but add small children into the mix and you may wonder if it's even possible. The logistics of being on call with young kids can be overwhelming, but with some solid planning and a bit of out-of-the-box thinking, there are ways to make it sustainable. Here are 4 possibilities...

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