Do you know what you need?
Do you know what you need? Most of us would say we do.
But have you ever had those moments where you are looking around at your life and you KNOW you have everything you could possibly need and yet, somehow, you still feel a bit off, a little dissatisfied, certain there MUST be something more?
(And because we LOVE to have feelings about our feelings, you of course immediately feel bad for feeling dissatisfied because - LOOK! - you have everything you need)
Here's the thing - that feeling arises because most of us don't actually know what we need let alone have what we need.
Most of us have inherited our "needs" from our family of origin, our peer group, our religion, our school, our culture. Those inherited "needs" are the blueprint that OTHERS have decided make for a happy and successful life.
The truth is, few of us find any joy or satisfaction in building our lives to other people's specifications.
As you become a parent yourself, you will start questioning some of these inherited ideas about what you "need" and start wondering if you actually, really need them after all. You will also start to discard some of them and begin searching for what is more true for you.
And the only way I know of to figure out what YOU need (just you - not your parents, your 5th grade teacher, your guru, your business coach, your great Aunt Marge, or your therapist) is to spend time, alone, with yourself.
I know - that sounds awful. I get it. I do. But the gift you will give yourself in befriending your own interiors will serve you as you prepare to give birth, as you make parenting choices, as you build your family and your life.
Image description: a sleeping baby.
It is literal soul-filling work.
There are tried and true ways to do this work: journal, meditate, practice mindfulness, do breathwork, float.
I know - I can feel your eye roll from here. I basically just told you to eat your vegetables.
Here's the thing - this is your game to play BUT you don't have to play it alone. Want us to hold your hand while you do this big (read: scary AF) work?
